Dominant & Submissive
Note: If you prefer to listen rather than read, we turned this post into a mini-episode for the podcast that covers the same points below: Submissive Red Flags minisode We talk an awful lot about predatory, abusive, poser, wannabe Dominants and their red flags. But that makes it sound like every submissive is a perfect angel simply waiting for the right Dominant to appear. Uhhh, not quite. Some submissives can be predatory. Frankly, regardless of your motivation for doing it, it shows a serious lack of understanding about consent.
The person wielding it should try, at the same time as much as possible, not to be one. How do you know but someone is dominating you? Or can you repeat that? are the signs of dominance all the rage a relationship? And when can they beneficial rather than harmful? The ascendant man is not a slave en route for his passions or to his craving. He practices self-discipline to dominate his own body and its inclinations as he knows this is necessary designed for his success and happiness. Because of this, the dominant man is add likely to be physically fit after that strong than someone who only fancies himself dominant but has no actual self-control or self-discipline. He recognizes after that appreciates body language that puts others at ease and makes them air appreciated.
Around is more to being a Ascendant than wearing a title, carrying a crop, giving orders or dressing the part. In real life, they a lot take the time to attend seminars and workshops; they have sought absent their peers and perhaps those a good deal more experienced than themselves. There is no reason why SL should be any different. There is one things a good Dominant is not — and that is domineering. Their approach is brash and rude, their air frequently crass and their treatment of submissives is generally negative and burdensome. A Dominant exercises control not as a result of being overbearing or through the abuse of threats or by belittling a different, but rather by working on a more subtle level, influencing thoughts, desires, needs and hopes — and all the way through the simple expedient of showing they care. While a Dominant is equally authoritarian and powerful, they are always mindful of those around them, exercising care and consideration for their subs, as well as acting with abide by for others regardless of whether they are Dominant or submissive.